5 Things I Realized While Watching Taylor Swift’s ‘The Man’ Music Video
Taylor Swift has dropped her newest video off of her Lover album, "The Man." I was looking forward to the video since the song is my favorite on this album and one of my favorite Taylor songs of all time. It's a close call between "The Man" and "All Too Well." I digress. The first time I heard "The Man," I found myself nodding my head over and over again, not to the beat of the music, but rather in agreement. As a woman who, like every other woman, is expected to be a "good little girl" it has always frustrated me that guys can get away with things because "boys will be boys." That is such a lame excuse.
Women are held to a standard that is, in fact, a cruel double standard. The dreaded "b" word is used like it might go out of style to clock a woman when she's being "crazy" or too demanding. Taylor's new song and video call out that double standard and is pretty much shredding the rule book to create a new code of conduct.
Have you ever noticed that when a woman does something that may be on the taboo side the internet jumps at her throat calling her out for not being an acceptable role model? What happens when a guy does the same thing? The internet shrugs because "boys will be boys." Why is it every woman's responsibility to be a role model, while the men can do whatever they want and almost praised for it?
When a man messes up we immediately talk about the comeback story. Let's use Tiger Woods for example, almost immediately after the incident with his ex-wife occurred and his golf game suffered, we were looking forward to his comeback story. I am not saying that this is wrong in any way, shape, or form, I full-heartily believe in forgiveness and understanding that we are all humans and we all make mistakes. However, how come this does not get extended to women?
Holding your ground, saying no, and not putting up with nonsense, immediately makes a woman a Disney villain. I'm sorry is understanding your own worth something only reserved for men? Saying no is a liberating action, that needs to be done by women more often in the workplace.
If you're a good looking man you get the benefit of the doubt nine times out of ten. People seem to be more receptive to a good looking guy and give them a bit more leeway when it comes to their actions.
Men have fewer "rules" than women do, which is exhausting. Until you throw up your hands, say I give up, and stop caring about society's standards for women, you will never not be exhausted by the hypocrisy.